It's Okay Not To Be Okay

Wednesday, May 10, 2017 5 Comments A+ a-


So, where do I even being? This year started off with a rough patch, again I won't bore you with details but it wasn't how I wanted to start the new year, but that's life, that's how my life always went anyway, but ever since my birthday in March, I felt like that all change, luck was on my side, things were looking up, for the first time in a while I could say I was truly content with how my life was, is even. So why this post?

A few weeks ago, with no trigger at all, I had a breakdown. No reasons that I know of, I just started crying, firstly just steams of tears down my face but once the other half hugged me, the hysterical tears came out and I just couldn't stop but the worse thing was that I couldn't explain it.

Not in actual words anyway.

This is what I don't think most people understand and I don't ever assume they ever could unless they do know, is that not every emotion I have needs to have a trigger, the trigger is the thoughts I have as it is. The problem is that the normal for me, is that my brain doesn't stop, it doesn't always have an effect but it could also have every effect on me.

Or maybe I have an issue I'm refusing to open up about? I'm not sure, but it's okay to have these breakdowns every now and then, to simply let it all out. Cry it out, some like to shout, punch a pillow, eat loads of ice cream - I do think that it's such a healthy thing to just let out all your feelings and tell yourself it's okay not to be okay.

You're not perfect, you are strong, but you don't have to be strong all the time.

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Emily
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Monday, 15 May, 2017 delete

I've been thinking a LOT about this lately, and have a half-written post of my own on the subject just waiting to be finished. It's good to know I'm not alone -- thank you for posting this!

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Emily
emilyhallock.blogspot.com

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Monday, 15 May, 2017 delete

It's definitely okay to have a big cry sometimes! I usually feel so much better after a bit of a breakdown, I bottle things up for so long and then it eventually all comes out! Hope you're okay and feeling a bit better now x

Tiffany x www.foodandotherloves.co.uk

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Monday, 15 May, 2017 delete

I absolutely agree! It's difficult when crying is so socially frowned upon, or how every answer to "How are you?" needs to be "Fine". But bottling it all up or being in denial is so much more harmful so 100% I agree- it is OK to not be OK! Thanks for writing this - I've written a post or 2 like this and it's always made me feel better too. Hope that was part of your experience! <3

Mary Lane @NewYorkCliche
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Cora Linn
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Tuesday, 16 May, 2017 delete

I used to bottle it all up and then have a mini breakdown when it got too much. Now I force myself to cry every so often with a sad book or a Disney film, and it's like it's not piling up any more.
Cora ❤ http://www.teapartyprincess.co.uk/

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Wednesday, 17 May, 2017 delete

I love that sentiment!! Its totally okay to not be okay and let the feels out as you go on!! I have that sometimes its perfectly normal actually! We wouldn't be human if we didn't have emotions that sometimes got the better of us!

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